Well this is interesting. After I wrote the post talking about a way of perceiving that was beyond quantum, I discover that there is in my thoughts plenty of similarity with an existing idea called "Informational Structural Realism." The original article by Luciano Floridi is abstract-only, but this article on arxiv.org discusses it in good detail.
While skimming through it to understand if there was any similarity to my own ideas, I find indeed there is plenty of overlap. Not sure yet if the article entails things I don't like, but I may have found an anchor in the lingua franca whereupon I can stand to weigh in on such conversations.